According to motivational speaker Sam West, there are clear signs that a man may be pretending to love you. Here are the key indicators to watch for:
1. He is not affectionate
A man who truly loves you will be affectionate and eager to understand your love language. He will make an effort to show you affection and make you feel cherished.
2. He never listens to you
Someone who loves you will want to understand you deeply. He will be attentive to what makes you happy and what does not. In contrast, a man who is not genuine will fail to listen and might give you things you dislike, even after you have clearly expressed your preferences.
3. He does not make plans for you or include you
A man who does not see a future with you will make plans that exclude you. Whether it is investments, travel, vacations, or family gatherings, you will find yourself consistently left out.
4. He is not reliable
Reliability is a strong sign of love. A man who loves you will be consistent and dependable. If he often cancels dates at the last minute without considering your feelings, it is a major red flag.
5. He does not prioritise you
A man pretending to love you will consistently put others before you. He would rather spend time partying with friends than being with you.
6. He does not share his thoughts
People who care about you will naturally share their thoughts, seeking your advice or opinions on matters in their personal or professional life. A man who keeps everything to himself may not be emotionally invested in the relationship.
7. He does not support you
A loving partner supports you emotionally, spiritually, financially, and socially. A man who offers none of these forms of support is likely not truly invested in the relationship.
Other signs a man is pretending to love you include:
He wants to keep your relationship a secret.
He displays excessive public affection but behaves differently when alone with you.
You are constantly unsure of your place in his life.
He only shows warmth when he needs favours.
He is unfaithful.
Recognising these signs early can save you emotional turmoil and help you make decisions that honour your self-worth and happiness.
by peninah njoki
