Veteran comedian turned TV show host, events MC, and media influencer Dr. Ofweneke has shared a message warning ladies about the do’s and don’ts when visiting their boyfriends—or simply being in the same vicinity as them.
The father of three argued that some of these habits aren’t even appreciated by men, as they never asked the girl to go above and beyond for them. This, he claimed, often puts the relationship in an awkward space.
However, his sentiments were not met with applause and gratitude. Instead, women accused him of “preaching water while getting drunk on wine,” with others firmly stating that he should be the last person giving relationship advice after two failed marriages.
“Ladies, when you go to a man’s house, UNLESS you are pretty sure that you are the official girlfriend, please do not give yourself the pressure or responsibility of undertaking house chores,” the former comedian began.
He went on to strongly advise, “Sijui you start washing clothes, washing utensils, cooking. And it’s not just cooking—you are out here making chapatis, and you know how hard they are to prepare and the process it takes. But you are out here cooking 5, 10 chapatis because you have plans of staying. You are out here fermenting porridge and chopping up greens. No, no please. Just relax.”
Wrapping up, he stressed that unless one is the official girlfriend, none of these things should concern them. He further argued that men aren’t always comfortable with women doing all these extra things for them.
“Just go visit him, whatever was supposed to happen happens, then you leave. Study a man’s body language—is he actually comfortable with you doing some things in his house? Men can sometimes be very delicate, and we can be very weird,” Ofweneke shared.
Reacting to his post, an Instagram user wrote, “Na yeye amefuga Mkisii kwa nyumba without paying dowry. Do the right thing before giving advice that you don’t live up to,” while another simply stated, “Says someone who can’t keep a relationship.”
“Enda uadvice Kairo, yeye ndo anahitaji advice saa hii. Sisi tuko sawa,” another penned.
Wrapping up, he stated, “You know very well these men are struggling and working hard; some of them are firstborns carrying black tax and everything. You are coming and making demands. You cannot request a 20-year-old to provide a lifestyle that only a 40-year-old can give you.”
“Stop asking men for what your own father was not able to provide for your mother. Don’t give a man pressure to achieve at his age what your father is achieving in his old age, and that is the blank truth,” the father of two added.
Adding that it was unrealistic to ask a man for things they never saw their own fathers provide for their mothers—or in retrospect, things their fathers are only able to do now after years of hard work.
“Ladies, you also need to start being fair to yourselves and to these guys,” the TV show host started as he argued his point.
Ofweneke shared his thoughts in a viral TikTok video, calling out women who habitually place financial burdens and unrealistic expectations on their boyfriends—especially when these men are still young and just starting in life.
Last year, the father of two cautioned women to stop expecting the world from men they are dating—especially when their own fathers were unable to provide the desired lifestyle for them or their mothers.
by HANNIE PETRA
