Content creator Lydia Wanjiru has urged women to remain vigilant in their relationships, claiming that some men use reverse psychology to disguise their infidelity.
Speaking on her Instagram page on Wednesday, October 8, Wanjiru explained that many women are easily deceived by the way their partners speak about other women, not realising that the apparent dislike or criticism is often a strategic act.
According to her, some men deliberately pretend to dislike certain women only to later become romantically involved with them.
She noted that a man may openly criticise or distance himself from a woman he secretly desires so that his partner never suspects any hidden agenda.
“Some of these men play reverse psychology with us,” Wanjiru said. “You think your husband who you run a business with doesn’t like your business partner. Every time you’re with him, he says, ‘Mimi sipendi huyo msichana,’ so that when he cheats on you with her, you won’t see it coming.”
She added that this behaviour is not limited to business circles but extends to friendships as well. “Even how your man or boyfriend talks about your friend — ‘Mimi sipendi huyo msichana’ — and before you know it, he’s cheating on you with her,” she remarked.
Reverse Psychology and Hidden Intentions
Wanjiru described this as a manipulative tactic designed to divert suspicion and keep women off guard. By pretending to dislike a certain woman, the man ensures that his partner never considers her a potential threat.
“It is reverse psychology meant to hide his real intentions,” she explained.
She emphasized that many women fall into this emotional trap because they trust their partner’s words without questioning the underlying motives.
“When a man constantly insists that he dislikes a certain woman yet keeps mentioning her, that’s a red flag,” she warned.
According to Wanjiru, such patterns are subtle but telling — a man who repeatedly brings up the same woman in conversation, whether in criticism or complaint, might be revealing an unhealthy interest.
Wanjiru concluded by advising women to stay alert and observant in their relationships.
“Whenever you see them together, he’ll say, ‘You know me, I don’t like that girl, it was just business.’ Mmmhm, that’s when you know you’re being played,” she said. “So, stay alert and read between the lines.”
by collins kithinji
