TikTok has left many people questioning their love lives.
The running joke is that the platform has turned viewers into “human ambulances,” thanks to the endless “wows” uttered when watching others flaunt their perfect relationships online.
From luxurious vacations to surprise rose deliveries, watching love stories flourish on TikTok can easily make you doubt yourself and your own experiences.
According to motivational speaker Sam West, there are deeper reasons why you might keep meeting heartbreakers — and it’s not just bad luck.
You Haven’t Healed
We all carry wounds and traumas from past experiences.
Jumping into a new relationship without properly healing means you risk bleeding on people who didn’t hurt you. Heal first before seeking a new partner; otherwise, you carry old pain into new spaces.
Peer Pressure
Many people enter relationships due to peer pressure.
Women, in particular, may feel pressure from society and their “biological clock,” leading them into relationships that aren’t right for them.
Doing things just because “everyone else is doing it” often ends in misery.
Being Superficial
Focusing only on how much money he earns, his social status, or his physical looks can cloud your judgement.
Character and inner beauty matter most.
In today’s society, where looks (and nyash) are overly glorified, it’s easy to forget that beauty fades — but good values and morals endure.
Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
Some people rush into relationships because they fear “running out of time” — whether it’s fear of never getting married or fear of missing the chance to have children.
The truth is: it’s better to be single and patient than trapped in the wrong relationship.
Don’t let fear dictate your decisions.
Low Self-Esteem
Believing you are unworthy of love can make you settle for less than you deserve.
Take time to build your confidence.
Believe that the right person will find you — someone who loves and values you even at your worst.
You Are Too Nice
Being overly nice can make it hard to say no, even when you are clearly being mistreated.
It’s important to set boundaries without feeling guilty.
Never be afraid of saying no or walking away from situations that don’t honour you — regardless of what people might say.
by peninah njoki
