A young man has stunned netizens after sharing that he refused to host his homeless mother over what she did to him when he was only 17 years old. Roderick Cole, who refused to host deadbeat mum. In a video shared on Facebook, the young man said that most people think that everyone is supposed to love and care for their parents no matter what, but his mother left him when he was struggling and barely getting by. “One day she packed everything that mattered to her and ran off to start a new life with another man. The last time she got her stuff and asked me what I was going to do, she left my siblings and I in an apartment in the projects waiting for the locks to get changed,” he said. “I waited for my mother to ask me to go with her, but she didn’t; my mum grabbed the last of her stuff and left me right there. No guidance and no mama, just me. I became the man that nobody invested in,” he added.
Roderick Cole, whose mum ran off. Photo: Roderick Cole. Source: Facebook How did Cole turn his life around? “I slept where I could sleep, out with my baby mama, and at 18 years old, I got my own place and a job. I became the man that no one invested in and got a job; 13 years later, the phone rang and it was my mother,” he said. “I had to figure it out, and now you have to figure it out,” I told her. Cole said it was very simple; she didn’t get to benefit from the man he had become over the years. Cole had the space, money, and resources; for a moment his heart wanted to say yes, but his memory kicked in and he reminded her she left him homeless. “I shed a few tears because denying your own mother somewhere to shelter is not easy. You can love someone but refuse to help them,” he said. “We can’t use ‘God’ as an excuse to allow abusers access to our resource,” he added. What did other citizens say about Roderick Cole? Rie Laudé: “Going through the same process without guilt. There’s different levels of abandonment by parents. The key is to be authentic to yourself and put the family you created first. Everyone will figure it out with or without me. I’m not obligated to care for anyone else but my own children first.” Liomarys Reyes: “Well done.
That’s a healthy response. Boundaries are necessary. You made the respectful choice.” LaTasha K Young: “That’s tough! I know how it feels to be abandoned by a parent! You did what you felt was best for your mental health! People say what they would and would not do until they have to walk in the same shoes!” Frankie Grant: “A lot of people who don’t have mothers like this don’t know how to separate their good mothers from these kind of mother. So it’s hard for them to understand this kind of reaction. But for those of us who had mothers like this, there was absolutely no issue with what he did.” Alneisha L Copprue “Sometimes you have to leave ppl where they at even if they are your mom or dad, anybody can be left behind for your peace and journey.” Lavonda Bryson: “Not many men will admit the damage their mothers caused. They instead take their anger out on their wife or mother of their child. I applaud your honesty, and I am happy you overcame.”
