Kenyan digital creator Njambi Fever has sparked an online discussion after candidly sharing her experience dating a man who had a child from a previous relationship.
Speaking in a recent TikTok video, Njambi reflected on the emotional challenges and maturity required to navigate such relationships.
The social media personality, known for her honest and outspoken takes on relationships, revealed that before meeting the father of her child, she once dated a man who already had a baby mama — an experience she now describes as one of the most dramatic periods of her life.
“Kudate mwanaume ako na mtoto inahitaji a lot of maturity na patience,” she began, emphasizing how emotionally demanding such a relationship can be. “Before nipatane na baba ya mtoto wangu, nilikua nadate mwanaume mwenye ako na mtoto, and let me tell you the drama ilikua kwa hiyo nyumba.”
Baby Mama Drama and Online Attacks
Njambi went on to explain that although her then-partner was transparent about having a child and being separated from his baby mama, the situation quickly spiraled into chaos once she entered the picture.
“Kitu ya kwanza, baby mama na huyo mwanaume hawakua pamoja. Mimi nimekuja in the picture, na hata hanifichi juu aliniambia ako na mtoi na hawako pamoja na baby mama. Huyo baby mama alienda kwa bloggers kuwaambia namuharibia nyumba hadi marafiki zake wakaanza kunitusi,” she revealed.
Her remarks shed light on the often-overlooked emotional toll of dating someone with unresolved issues from a past relationship — especially when children and public scrutiny are involved.
Fans React to Her Honesty
Njambi’s candid confession has drawn both praise and empathy from fans who commended her for speaking openly about a topic many avoid.
Some viewers said her story resonated with their own experiences, while others lauded her growth and courage to move past the drama.
”Mimi ni single mother and I prefer single men with no kids at all . ” A fan commented .
”Mwanaume anaeza penda mtoto wake akose kukupenda wewe mwanamke .” Another one added .
”Siwezi date mwanaume akona mtoto weuh . ” Another added
Her story comes at a time when conversations around blended families and co-parenting have become more visible online, with many young women in Kenya sharing their experiences of dating men with children.
As Njambi continues to use her platform to discuss real-life relationship issues, her openness offers a refreshing and relatable voice to women navigating modern love and blended family dynamics.
BY Judy mutinda
