Comedian Oliver Otieno, known popularly as YY Comedian, recently offered candid insight into his personal life during an interview.
Speaking on the ALEX MWAKIDEU TV (AMTV) podcast, YY discussed the difficult subjects of forgiveness, co-parenting, and managing public expectation following a breakup.
He revealed that he had to make hard decisions about his former relationship.
The Decision to Walk Away
YY confirmed that the decision to end his previous relationship was not due to infidelity. He stated clearly that there was “no cheating” involved. Instead, the breakup stemmed from serious issues touching on core values.
He explained that mistakes can only be tolerated once, especially if they infringe upon deeply held personal “don’ts”. If the mistake happens a second time, “they know what they’re doing”.
The comedian confessed that he feared what the public might think if he ended the relationship, given their history.
However, he told himself that he needed to end it to avoid building a life he did not truly desire.
He made it clear that he had set relationship preconditions before they committed. He had told his partner and her friend that if any of those standards were crossed, he would “walk away”.
Despite the emotional damage and the breach of values, YY maintains a stance of forgiveness.
“No, I forgive her. I forgive her, Bro. There’s nothing totally to hold on to. I forgive her.”
Addressing the Parents
Following the end of the relationship, YY took the mature step of speaking directly to his ex-partner’s family. He confirmed that he called the dad himself to explain the situation.
“I called the dad myself, Yes I did, I did,” he revealed.
He detailed to the father that his daughter knew his boundaries, but “still went ahead and still continued to do blah blah blah”.
He admitted that he felt “very bad that I had to disappoint that man”.
Co-Parenting Responsibilities
The comedian revealed that he and his babymama are successfully co-parenting their child.
He is adamant that he will never discuss the specifics of their previous relationship publicly. He noted that he cannot “open my mouth to say anything” about the mother of his child because she gave birth to his daughter.
He believes that if he were to withdraw his support, it would not punish the woman, but rather punish the child.
Therefore, he continues to uphold his paternal duties. This includes paying school fees, medical expenses, and dedicating time to his daughter.
He spends every weekend with his daughter, from Friday to Monday. He stressed that parents must always “bow down below the child”.
A crucial element of his co-parenting strategy is ensuring the child is protected. He stated that when he is with his daughter, he always talks positively about her mother.
He noted that avoiding arguments with an ex-partner is necessary because once a woman is no longer under his care, he owes her “no argument”.
In co-parenting, YY insists that the child must be the ultimate winner. He also advises that parents must learn to “detach emotionally” from the child for their own psychological well-being.
by moses sagwe
