Kenyan content creator Milly Wa Jesus recently shared a vulnerable moment with her husband, Kabi Wa Jesus, shining a light on a relatable challenge many parents face: documenting their journey.
In a candid exchange on her Instagram stories, Milly called out Kabi for not recording her special moments with their children.
She explained that while she often films his interactions with the kids, her own role as a mother is rarely captured.
“You always do it for yourself, all the time. You don’t; you rarely do [record me],” Milly said.
Milly’s comments struck a chord with many followers. She explained that she feels like her contributions to their family life are going unnoticed because she’s always the one behind the camera.
Milly made it clear that her issue isn’t about competition; it’s about preserving a record of her life. She pointed out that without these videos, her personal memories of motherhood are almost non-existent.
“I don’t have memories. You do, because of me. People might think you are always washing the babies and playing with the babies, while I do nothing,” she said.
Her concern highlights a common problem in the age of constant documentation.
One person often becomes the designated family photographer or videographer, while their own experiences remain unseen and unrecorded.
A Deeper Conversation
This wasn’t just a simple disagreement. For Milly, the lack of recorded memories is about feeling seen and celebrated as an active mother. Her gentle but firm pushback reminded everyone that parenting is a shared experience, and so should the documentation of it.
While Kabi tried to defend himself, arguing that he does occasionally record her, Milly was firm in her stance that it’s not enough.
The couple’s honest conversation resonated and served as a refreshing reminder that even the most picture-perfect families have real, everyday issues to navigate behind the scenes.
by bradley odhiambo
