A lighthearted but passionate debate has taken over social media: should a man queue for food at an event when his partner is present?
The discussion was sparked by a post questioning whether it is customary for women to serve their partners instead of them standing in line like everyone else.
Responses poured in, revealing varying perspectives, traditions, and personal experiences.
Tradition or Personal Preference?
Many users agreed that men should not queue for food if their partners are present. @LilacMwesh shared her personal stance, saying, “I don’t know about y’all, but my husband will never queue for food if I’m there. You’ll find me at the serving area holding his plate, making sure he gets what he eats.”
She went on to say that she never saw her father queuing either.
Similarly, @KevinKaranja stated that he grew up in a household where his father was always served, and now, at family functions, his sister, mother, or aunts make sure he doesn’t have to line up either.
“It’s just what I’m used to,” he said. @conSQLses echoed this sentiment, adding that even her father’s brothers don’t queue because they know she will sort them out.
For some, it’s a cultural norm. @LordIsGracious pointed out, “Growing up in a household with both parents teaches sons to expect service from women, just as daughters learn to serve from their mothers.”
Others even noted that at well-organised events, the master of ceremonies sometimes directs older men to sit down while food is brought to them.
Changing Times, Changing Expectations
Not everyone agreed with these views. Some felt the expectation that women should serve men at events was outdated and unnecessary.
@Rita took a more balanced approach, saying, “And he can also do the same for you. It’s just about serving each other.”
Others questioned why both partners would be queuing for food at an event in the first place. @IreneSidney asked, “Why would you and your man even be in a food queue at an event? Do you not cook at home?”
Meanwhile, some pointed out that women who serve their men at public events may only be doing so for appearances.
@LeónFeroz remarked, “There are women who do this for optics at events, but at home, the man serves himself.”
A Sign of Affection or Reinforcement of Gender Roles?
For some, serving their partner is simply an act of love.
@Nitah explained, “Because my man is HIM in my eyes. That’s my only reason.” Similarly, @ooohMudryk stated that this tradition has always existed and that “it’s beautiful the way it is.”
However, others joked about the expectations that come with such traditions. @MadofoloKE humorously questioned, “Why should a man queue for food when his wife, girlfriend, side chick, and kids are all there?”
A few users even saw it as an opportunity for matchmaking. @MurithiJackson3 jokingly declared, “God, You said this year I’m finding a wife, right? You said we would meet on X, huh?”
A Call for Event Organisers
Beyond the gender debate, some suggested that event organisers should take a more structured approach to food service. @stayhome_ED recommended that food be served at tables to avoid long queues and unnecessary discussions on who should or shouldn’t be standing in line.
Final Thoughts
At the heart of this discussion is a reflection of different upbringings, cultural expectations, and personal preferences. As one user wisely summarised, “Everyone should just do what works for them.”
So, should a man queue for food at an event when his significant other is present? The debate continues.
By Mpasho news
