I never imagined that something as private as intimacy could almost cost me my marriage.
When I first married Lydia, everything felt perfect. We laughed together, we planned our future, and I believed nothing could shake our bond.
But a few months into the marriage, I started noticing her distance. She no longer looked at me the way she used to. I tried to ignore it, convincing myself it was just work stress.
Then one night, after what I thought was an intimate evening, I noticed the sadness in her eyes.
She didn’t complain, but her silence cut deeper than any harsh words.
I realized, painfully, that despite my efforts no matter how many rounds I went she wasn’t truly satisfied.
It hit my confidence like a hammer. I felt less of a man.
I feared that if I didn’t do something, she might start looking elsewhere to feel fulfilled.
The thought of losing her or being replaced in that way was unbearable because I genuinely loved her.
I tried everything I could think of eating certain foods, going to the gym, even reading online tips but nothing changed.
Our bedroom stayed cold.
Our conversations turned brief and practical.
The woman who once couldn’t wait to hug me now slept facing the wall.
I started dreading evenings at home, afraid of feeling like a failure again.
One evening, in a moment of frustration, I opened up to an old friend.
He didn’t laugh or judge me. He said quietly,
“Sometimes, what looks like a physical problem can have deeper roots. If you’ve tried everything else, maybe it’s time to seek a different kind of help. I know someone people go to Dr Bokko.”
At first I hesitated. I wasn’t sure what to expect.
But I knew I couldn’t keep living like that. My marriage was at stake.
When I finally called Dr Bokko, I was surprised by his calm and respectful manner.
He listened without interrupting, asked me about my marriage and my worries, and reassured me that sometimes couples face unseen obstacles that can be addressed with the right guidance.
He didn’t promise magic or instant miracles instead, he guided me through personal reflection, simple practices to rebuild closeness, and, as part of my own belief, performed a discreet spiritual support ritual.
He told me, “You’re not broken. Sometimes love just needs to be protected and renewed.”
Over the following weeks, I noticed a shift not just in the bedroom, but in my own heart.
I felt calmer, more confident.
I started courting my wife again the way I used to: complimenting her, being patient, listening to her.
Slowly, the tension between us melted away.
One night, after we had laughed over dinner like we used to, she reached for my hand.
For the first time in months, I saw that spark of desire and warmth in her eyes.
That night, our intimacy felt natural and fulfilling no tension, no silent disappointment.
Today, I look back and feel grateful that I didn’t give up.
Many couples struggle in silence, letting shame and frustration destroy what could be saved.
Sometimes, all it takes is admitting you need help and reaching out to the right person.
If you’re in a similar situation feeling the distance growing, watching your partner slip away in silence don’t wait until it’s too late.
Seeking help saved my marriage and restored the love we almost lost.
Contact Dr Bokko for private guidance:
Phone: +254 769404965
